I got a large lesson in human nature this past weekend at my 13 year old's volleyball tournament. There were a lot of low vibe actions happening and coaches supporting and displaying a lot of poor sportsmanship. Yet if took the time and energy to look a little deeper you could see that these actions were rooted in something much deeper than poor sportsmanship. These negative patterns were instilled in them from their parents, their cultures, their ancestors and society. 

Ancestral patterns can be both positive and negative. On one side of the spectrum it expands you and helps you be the best person you can be. On the other side it anchors you in fear, quite possibly not even recognizing it as fear. It keeps you stuck in the same patterns, never able to feel safe, appreciated, loved, or enough. 

It takes courage, commitment, perseverance and love to overcome deeply engrained pain and trauma. Yet, that is exactly what the human spirit is designed to do. To see through the darkness of fear and embrace the light. To choose love over fear. 

There are certainly plenty of opportunities in life today to choose love over fear. Some days it feels like the whole world is falling apart. Governments overreaching the limits of their power, so many challenges with the pandemic, feeling like you can’t trust the “other side”, worried about your kids education, not to mention job security, inflation, family matters, and all the normal stresses like going to the grocery store, getting meals on the table, trying to take care of yourself and be a good example for those around you.

Whew! Stressors are limitless these days.

But so are we!

We can be weighed down with all the fear, anger, grief, guilt, victimhood that we come into contact with daily -OR- we can see life clearly and choose to rise above. I mean really, what good comes out of you getting sucked down into the anger, fear and oppression? Nothing!

All the fear is a call for love.

It is asking your highest self to take the drivers seat instead of your small self.

Let go of the pride, jealousy, irritation, agitation, rage, smallness and step into the best version of you!

There are so many crystals that can support you on the journey from fear to love. The following crystals will help you face this world and all its challenges with the expansive energy of the heart and highest self.

1. Pink Amethyst

Pink Amethyst Tower

The major difference between pink amethyst and regular amethyst is that purple amethyst is highly concerned with the psychic realms, while its pink counterpart would rather you view the regular world from a higher perspective. It has a certain level of grounding energy and seeks to fill the heart with love at all times, which keeps things at an Earth-focused level. Pink amethyst as a feminine force is a balancer, healer, womb-warmer and comforter — through and through. Its gentle love energy possesses the gifts offered to you by your spirit, emotions, mind and physical body. It offers strong protection against the negative energies of your environment and low vibration people all around you. It creates a pathway to free you from fear, anger, guilt, and victimization. Pink amethyst offers calm in a sea of overwhelm and anxiety, often neutralizing the energetic charge of the situation at hand. It helps you to realize that Self-love and deeper intuition are the means of overcoming negative karmic patterns. Pink amethyst works with the heart chakra, the third eye chakra and the crown chakra. It is particularly instrumental in opening up the heart after it has been deeply wounded, either through grief or trauma.

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2. Green Aventurine

Green Aventurine Ganesha

Promotes the ability to open one’s heart to others and to trust life, light-heartedness, cleanses the heart of fear, vitality, growth, confidence, stimulates the loving aspects of one’s nature while protecting from negativity. Positive stone for prosperity. Absorbs electromagnetic pollution. Defuses negative situations and turns them around. Improves leadership and decisiveness. Promotes compassion and encourages perseverance. Stabilizes one’s state of mind, stimulates perception and enhances creativity. It sees alternatives and possibilities. Brings together the emotional and intellectual bodies. Calms anger and irritation. Protects the heart and helps you to live from your heart. It is a comforter and harmonizer. Dissolves negative emotions and thoughts.

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3. Mangano Pink Calcite

Pink Mangano Calcite

This is a stone of forgiveness and brings unconditional love. It releases fear and grief that keep the heart trapped in the past. With it's gentle, loving energy, it is a stone that aids in self-acceptance and self-worth. It eases nervous conditions, trauma, pain, anxiety, tension, nightmares, emotional stress while it develops motivation and helps you feel revitalized.

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4. Rhodochrosite

Rhodochrosite cabochon

This is a stone of love and balance. It has a vibration that emits the power of love. It gently and quickly balances your emotions as it reprograms your emotional body to receive love instead of suffering. It also balances the ability to give and receive. It heals chronic self-blame as you develop self-love and compassion.

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5. Rose Quartz

Rose Quartz Sphere

Emits a calming, cooling energy that can be used to gently remove negativity and reinstate the loving, gentle forces of self-love. It brings calmness and clarity to emotions restoring harmony. Rose Quartz brings peace and calm to relationships and heals the heart through self-love. It develops self-esteem, self-image, and a positive body image as you open to the Goddess within. It aids in learning to feel one’s emotions, promoting acceptance, inner peace, forgiveness and stress release.

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6. Prehnite

Prehnite and Epidote Tower

Prehnite is a stone that brings inner peace through union of the heart and will. It embodies unconditional love and inspires one to find your true spiritual path. It multiplies energies and enhances one’s protective fields. Wearing or gridding with it will produce calmness, coherence and a feeling that everything will be all right. It teaches how to be in harmony with nature and elemental forces while enhancing one’s protective fields. It enhances inner knowing, visualization, inspiration, divination and flow. Helpful for decluttering inner and outer spaces. It removes frustration and helps one let go of thoughts and emotions that are no longer needed. It is a stone for dreaming and remembering. Prehnite calms agitation and reduces stress – all of which helps improve sleep helping you overcome challenges.

P.S. the epidot in the above picture amplifies and supports the energy of prehnite, while raise your vibration. 

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7. Apophyllite

Apophyllite Crystal

Holds the vibration of purity and spiritual presence within a space. It deepens, connection to angels and spirit guides and supports inner vision. it is a wonderful meditative tool, helping you understand spiritual lessons, develop total self-awareness, and overcome karmic patterns. It helps make a connection between the body and the spiritual realm. Allows one to recognize and act upon the truth. Enhances mindful analysis tinged with universal love, encouraging one to seek, recognize, and correct deficiencies, while reflecting the naturalness of the state of “Perfection”. Keeping apophyllite in one’s environment can provide an atmosphere of purity and spiritual presence in one’s home, meditation area or work space. It infuses the aura and body with high-frequency Light energy.

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7 1/2. Green Apophyllite

Green Apophyllite Crystal

Green Apophyllite opens the heart to joy and love, heals heart ache/break, renews one’s joy in life and the ability to send and receive love. It attunes to spiritual energies of nature and strengthens the conscious connection between physical form and the spiritual realm.

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8. Green Quartz

Green Quartz Tower

Working with the Heart Chakra, Green Quartz has a healing effect when worn or carried. Use Green Quartz to help transmute negative energies into positive ones. Green Quartz is also known to attract prosperity and success and to stimulate one’s creativity. Carrying Green Quartz will help to activate the Heart Chakra, and impart a sense of wholeness to the owner. By opening, activating and/or stabilizing the Heart Chakra, Green Quartz can help one to feel empathy and universal love for others, and as such, is a great stone for people who are overly selfish or controlling. Green Quartz has a pleasant vibe and can have a positive effect on the environment if placed strategically in a room. Energy healing can be enhanced with Green Quartz by laying this stone on the Heart Chakra. Green Quartz can help one to learn empathy in a "dog-eat-dog" environment. This quality is good for both the giver and the receiver, as well as for the benefit of the whole world using collective consciousness.

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9. Smoky Quartz

Colorado Smoky Quartz Crystal

Dissolves negative energies and mental/emotional blockages, excellent grounding and protection stone, provides for an encompassing barrier of energy around the user, antidote to stress helping you to tolerate difficult times with equanimity and a fortifying resolve, promotes personal pride and joy in living, lifts depression, brings calm. It is a “stone of cooperation” stimulating the unification of energies towards the goal. Can lift depression and bring calm. Strengthens practicality, resolve and organization. It relieves fear, and aids in manifesting one’s dreams and inspiration.

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10. Rutilated Quartz

Rutilated Quartz crystal

Rutilated Quartz stimulates and clears all the chakras. It is a powerful protector from negative energy while it purifies the aura. It brings strength with love, ease in transition, growth in all avenues of one’s development as well as calm, reason and order. It has a stabilizing effect - on relationships, for marriages, mental processes and emotional or physical imbalance. In developing stability, it helps you find the root of the problem to understand the reason for the existence of the pattern, dis-ease or obstacle so you may then remedy the situation. Golden Rutilated Quartz activates your creative energies and the ability to receive Divine inspiration. It is a very powerful healer. It can be used to soothe dark and gloomy moods, acting as an antidepressant. It helps relieve fears, phobias, overwhelm, anxieties and self-hatred. It can be beneficial for chronic conditions, impotence, infertility, lactation, the immune system and energy depletion.

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11. Iolite

Iolite Sphere

Iolite is useful in the healing of old wounds. It calms an overactive mind bringing  focus to meditation. It strengthens discernment so you can take action based on wisdom. It is a key stone for use at the third-eye and crown chakras during healings, meditations, and astral travel. It assists one to change painlessly in endeavors of spiritual growth. It balances male/female aspects, bringing harmony within, while eliminating dissonance in relationships. It helps one let go of the belief that one needs to control inner experiences and it dissolves the fear of the unknown or suppressed parts of the psyche. Helps you move forward into areas of old fear, shining a light on old wounds is the most direct path to healing. On the inward journey it reveals hidden treasures of the self, enhancing peace and joy. Blends normal conscious thinking with intuitive knowing, more deeply connecting the mind and the heart.  

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12. Orange Calcite

Orange Calcite Tower

Last but not least...Orange Calcite is highly energizing and cleansing, balances the emotions, removes fear and overcomes depression. It dissolves problems and maximizes potential, removes karmic hooks and memories of old abuse, and facilitates healing on all levels. It gets energy moving to see old problems in a new way to find creative solutions. Heals emotional wounds around sexuality, creativity and will. Overcomes shame from the past. Encourages confidence, playfulness, inspiration and innovation. Calcite is cleansing, refreshing, and revitalizing. It gently sweeps out old patterns and that which no longer serve you, clearing out blockages and promoting energy flow. Allows you to see the world from a fresh perspective, seeing the joy that is naturally in all aspects of life.

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So you see my friend, there are many, many crystals to support you on your journey of healing and expansion. You don't have to feel alone on this path. You have loads of crystal allies and if you want a little extra support on the journey of using crystals for self-awareness, please feel free to schedule a complementary Dynamic Inner Alignment Coaching Session with me. 

During the session:

  • We’ll work together to create a crystal-clear vision for the life you’d like to have without all the stress and anxiety.
  • You’ll uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your success at home and at work causing you to feel burnt out and exhausted.
  • And you’ll leave the session renewed, re-energized and inspired to finally feel empowered to make better decisions and take more soul-aligned actions once and for all.

Now is your opportunity to shift your mindset and heart-set to include a fuller life of joy, love and peace. 

Many blessings on your way!

Much love,


Written by Mindy Arbuckle

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